After the break up with you first love?

so i was in love with this girl for awhile but was really insecure and always assumed and accused her of cheating on me allll the time and she stuck around for along time and she got sick of it eventually. well i was extremely attached to her and she was attached to me too. towards the end it got really bad and she snuck around my back with another guy but still wanted to be with me. long story short it didnt work out and we havent talked in over a month, i still cheack her myspace and AIM and obsess over thoughts about her or what she could be doing or who she is with. im pretty much obsessed with her i think but im getting better. but my thoughts are what is really getting to me, i have obsessive thoughts and whatever i think of what shes doing i cant dismiss the thought and i actually have to check it out. so like....i guess any advice would be nice about the obsessive thoughts and can you fall inlove with someone else and forget all about your first love?

After the break up with you first love?

Yes and you need to fill your time with something more healthy.

After the break up with you first love?

It's tough and takes a lot of self control. One thing you might try is putting a rubber band on your rest and anytime you think about her, give it a little snap. Yeah, for the first few days your wrist might be red, but if you keep up with it, it will help you control and stop the thoughts of her. And as hard as it is, she's not yours to worry about anymore. So stop thinking about what she's doing and who she's with. Start thinking about yourself and your own life and keeping yourself busy and having fun.

After the break up with you first love?

O_o Your obsessive tell me this. Move on with your life. You repetitively accused her of cheating, and she finally has done it. You've found your drama and now you want to take back ever provoking it's appearance? Time's change, you've got to move on. If you really wanted a second chance, you should just ask her, your obsessive thoughts is not going to get you anywhere. Either way, always understand that she's her own person, and you should respect her decisions no matter what she decides. Why don't you just become friends with her? Sort of a trial to see if you still have the same exact feeling as you did before.

About the first love thing.. It doesn't last much anyways. You're probably just looking for someone to love, and she's the closest thing. Don't be afraid to be alone, because you won't be. As long as you have confidence in yourself, you should be fine. Just don't worry too much about her.